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CONFESSIONS OF A PSYCHOTHERAPIST

December 30th, 2014 in Thought for the month, What's new

Will your New Year be really new? …. If not, try a vision instead of a list!

With New Year coming up, we all have to ask ourselves whether the New Year will be really new, or whether it is just same old, same old. Will I have new attitudes, a new way of living, new goals, a new sense of what is possible? Or will I just have a new list […] Read more »

December 18th, 2014 in Christmas cheer -- or not

How did you become homeless?

I asked a young man on the streets of Hastings when and how he became homeless.  He told me he had returned from some time in France, and discovered that though British, he was not eligible for any help for three months.  He only had enough money to last one month, and then couldn’t pay […] Read more »

December 17th, 2014 in Christmas cheer -- or not, Living thoughts

The Chanukah Season

When I told the late Sue Townsend that she must be Jewish, since her mother and mother’s mother were Jewish, which is the clincher by Jewish law, she was pleased. “I always wanted to be part of a discriminated against minority.” She never wanted to be the insider; I think she knew her job was […] Read more »

December 10th, 2014 in Christmas cheer -- or not, Joy of burnout

Christmas Burnout? Stop, Give up Hope and Keep the Faith

Why do so many people sound burnt out in the run-up to Christmas? A friend last night sat staring at her pile of 200 cards, that had cost her a fortune she didn’t really have in printing and postage, and nearly had a breakdown thinking about writing in them and addressing the envelopes. But her […] Read more »

June 24th, 2014 in Turning Points and New Beginnings

The miracle of the cataract operation

Last week I had a cataract operation and it was as if it opened up a whole new world.  More than that, it ushered in a whole new me. I’ve been near sighted all my life, wore glasses when I was under 10, contact lenses at 16, and still seemed to have poorer eyesight than […] Read more »

June 21st, 2014 in Living thoughts, Turning Points and New Beginnings

Free the Imagination

The imagination is the pioneer of the soul. When all is said and done, the soul asks us to make everything new. To do this, we take one step at a time, be it giant step or baby step, towards an expanded consciousness for ourselves and others. This cis the consciousness that enables us to […] Read more »

May 24th, 2014 in Turning Points and New Beginnings

What makes a transition into a turning point?

A sneak preview of my talk at the Mind Body Spirit Festival this morning: If transitions are the space between one identity and another, one picture of ourselves and another, then turning points happen at the moment that we allow ourselves to let go of the old identity and allow a new identity to find […] Read more »

May 7th, 2014 in Turning Points and New Beginnings

How to Turn a Transition into a Turning Point

Giving a talk at the Mind Body Spirit Festival on May 24 is a great opportunity to think about transitions and turning points in a new way.  I’ve always found transitions difficult;  they say that there are three kinds of babies,  easy ones, difficult ones, and those who find new situations difficult.  I am the […] Read more »

April 15th, 2014 in Living thoughts

Laughing with Sue Townsend

One of the funniest anecdotes that Sue told me was about the time she was mugged. Some young man pointed something at her, which she thought was a knife, and wanted her money.  In her large leather bag, she was carrying her only copy of a manuscript of her latest Adrian Mole book. She desperately […] Read more »

April 12th, 2014 in Living thoughts

Sue Townsend, an Aristocat of the Spirit

Sue Townsend, a very great woman and a very great writer, passed away on Thursday night. She would never have thought of herself as spiritual, yet she was a true aristocrat of the spirit. She would laugh when I told her that, as she always did when hearing compliments. This story about Sue will not […] Read more »
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